The Art of Better Conversation
Like Duolingo, but for The Art of Better Conversation. Tomo turns the whole topic into a game you play five minutes a day, until it actually sticks.
For the part of you with thirty open tabs that never became anything.
Free during early access · No credit card · iPhone & Android
Key ideas in The Art of Better Conversation
- Observing a shared external reality feels less intrusive than a personal comment
- Complimenting a choice acknowledges agency and taste
- The environment provides a 'third object' for both people to focus on
- Complimenting a trait can feel passive or objectifying
- Context-based openers require less social effort
- Choices provide a natural 'hook' for a follow-up story
- Using the environment to create a natural opener
- Distinguishing between complimenting choices versus traits
- Sharing a small detail about yourself first lowers the other person's guard
- Asking a question without a statement feels like a 'job interview'
- The statement provides 'free information' the other person can use to pivot the topic
- Inclusive pronouns like 'we' or 'us' frame the conversation as a joint activity
- Applying the Statement-Question combo to avoid interrogation
- People decide if they want to talk to you based on your 'vibe' before your words
- Trying to be 'brilliant' early on can create pressure or come off as try-hard
- Using 'we' language to create shared experience
You've tried the other tabs
Thirty open tabs. Four facts you actually kept.
You watched. You nodded. By Sunday it was gone.
One answer, then back to scrolling.
Eight weeks. You meant to finish. You didn't.
Tomo gives The Art of Better Conversation the Duolingo treatment: levels, streaks, and quick quizzes that test what you just learned. That game loop is what the tabs above never had, so it's the one you actually finish.
Here's what playing it feels like
A real question from this course. Take your best guess.
Why is complimenting someone's choice of book more effective than complimenting their eye color?
Get it right to open this lesson and 34 more in the app.
Where The Art of Better Conversation takes you
Master the social skills needed to connect with anyone, from breaking the ice to navigating deep discussions with confidence.
- 1
Breaking the Ice
- Starting from Zero
- Keeping the Momentum
- 2
The Skill of Listening
- Active Listening and Presence
- Reading the Unspoken
- 3
Navigating Social Situations
- Graceful Exits and Transitions
- Managing Group Dynamics
- 4
Deepening the Connection
- Moving Past Small Talk
- Handling Disagreement
- 5
The Psychology of Rapport
- Confidence and the Social Mind
5 sections · 9 units · 35 levels. Built to play, not to enroll.
You pick the voice
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