The Language of Feelings
Like Duolingo, but for The Language of Feelings. Tomo turns the whole topic into a game you play five minutes a day, until it actually sticks.
For the part of you with thirty open tabs that never became anything.
A short one: 9 levels across 2 sections, about 18 minutes end to end, roughly 4 days at five minutes a day. It moves through Decoding Your Inner World and The Art of Connection. It starts from scratch.
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Key ideas in The Language of Feelings
- Emotions signal that something in the environment matters to you
- Moving from vague labels like 'bad' to specific labels like 'resentful' calms the nervous system
- Feeling an emotion doesn't mean you have to act on its immediate impulse
- Specific labels help the brain categorize the problem so it can stop the 'alarm' response
- Treating a feeling as information allows you to choose a response that aligns with your values
- Each specific emotion has a distinct 'flavor' or cause
- Recognizing emotions as signals rather than directives
- Applying emotional granularity to reduce stress
- Physical sensations precede conscious labels
- Reacting vs responding
- Brain processes body stimuli first
- Emotions as signals
- Body maps catch reactions
- Pause allows logical brain to catch up
- Control is in the space before action
- Emotional granularity
You've tried the other tabs
Thirty open tabs. Four facts you actually kept.
You watched. You nodded. By Sunday it was gone.
One answer, then back to scrolling.
Eight weeks. You meant to finish. You didn't.
Tomo gives The Language of Feelings the Duolingo treatment: levels, streaks, and quick quizzes that test what you just learned. That game loop is what the tabs above never had, so it's the one you actually finish.
Here's what playing it feels like
A real question from this course. Take your best guess.
What happens to your body when you trade a vague label like 'feeling bad' for a specific one like 'resentful'?
Get it right to open this lesson and 8 more in the app.
Where The Language of Feelings takes you
Learn to translate the silent signals of your emotions into stronger, more resilient relationships. This course gives you the tools to decode what you're feeling and respond with intention instead of impulse.
- 1
Decoding Your Inner World
- Naming the Feeling
- Reading the Social Map
- 2
The Art of Connection
- Responding with Intelligence
2 sections · 3 units · 9 levels. Built to play, not to enroll.
You pick the voice
The Language of Feelings is taught in the The Bestie style: your friend who just gets it. Want a different feel? In the app you can spin up the same topic in any of Tomo's teaching styles. Same facts, totally different vibe.
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