Accountability in Partnership
Like Duolingo, but for Accountability in Partnership. Tomo turns the whole topic into a game you play five minutes a day, until it actually sticks.
For the part of you with thirty open tabs that never became anything.
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Key ideas in Accountability in Partnership
- Intent is invisible to the partner
- Explaining why as a defensive shield
- Shared reality of observable outcomes
- Distinguishing intent and impact
- Prioritizing internal state vs external pain
- Contextualizing as a focus shift
- Bridges through emotional resonance
- Recognizing defensive shields
- Validation as emotional acknowledgment
- Intent vs Impact
- Holding dual realities
- Fact-arguing as derailment
- Context as a shield
- Nervous system regulation
- Preventing 'explaining away' pain
- Witnessing the impact
You've tried the other tabs
Thirty open tabs. Four facts you actually kept.
You watched. You nodded. By Sunday it was gone.
One answer, then back to scrolling.
Eight weeks. You meant to finish. You didn't.
Tomo gives Accountability in Partnership the Duolingo treatment: levels, streaks, and quick quizzes that test what you just learned. That game loop is what the tabs above never had, so it's the one you actually finish.
Here's what playing it feels like
A real question from this course. Take your best guess.
When you immediately explain the 'why' behind a mistake during a conflict, what is often the result?
Get it right to open this lesson and 11 more in the app.
Where Accountability in Partnership takes you
Move beyond basic apologies to master the art of radical ownership. Learn to navigate high-stakes conflict by prioritizing impact over intent and building a culture of mutual repair.
- 1
The Mechanics of Repair
- Prioritizing Impact Over Intent
- The Anatomy of High-Stakes Repair
- 2
Mastering the Self-Audit
- Identifying Defensive Defaults
- Co-creating Accountability Systems
2 sections · 4 units · 12 levels. Built to play, not to enroll.
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Accountability in Partnership is taught in the The Professor style: clear, structured, thorough. Want a different feel? In the app you can spin up the same topic in any of Tomo's teaching styles. Same facts, totally different vibe.
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