Everyday Allyship for Women
Like Duolingo, but for Everyday Allyship for Women. Tomo turns the whole topic into a game you play five minutes a day, until it actually sticks.
For the part of you with thirty open tabs that never became anything.
87 levels across 8 sections, about 174 minutes end to end, roughly 35 days at five minutes a day. It moves through The First Moves in Everyday Conversations; Noticing the Invisible Dynamics; Speaking Up in the Moment; Decentering Yourself and Listening Well; Equitable Sponsorship and Advocacy; Intersectionality and Diverse Realities; Changing Systems, Policies, and Culture; and Sustaining Lifelong Allyship. It starts from scratch.
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Key ideas in Everyday Allyship for Women
- Men interrupt women far more frequently than they interrupt other men
- Repeated interruptions steadily shrink how much total airtime women get in meetings
- Recognizing this imbalance is why intentional ally intervention is necessary in the first place
- A redirect pivots attention back to the speaker's original point rather than attacking the interrupter
- Effective ally phrases sound neutral and collaborative, like 'I want to make sure we hear the rest of Maya's thought before we move on'
- Aggressive call-outs often make the room defensive, shifting the focus away from the interrupted woman's idea
- Colleagues can agree in advance to back each other up if one gets cut off or talked over
- Allies can plan to amplify each other's key points and credit the originator explicitly
- Pre-meeting alignment works best when planned intentionally rather than left to chance in the moment
- Collaborative overlaps show agreement or enthusiasm and keep the original speaker's point moving forward
- Dominance interruptions cut the speaker off to take the floor or divert the topic to the interrupter's agenda
- Allies only need to step in when the speaker is actually losing control of her idea or airtime
- Publicly returning the floor signals to everyone present that talking over women is not acceptable team behavior
- Addressing it in the room restores her lost airtime and visibility in front of leadership and peers right then
- Private follow-ups offer comfort but do nothing to correct the group dynamic or give back her voice in that decision
- Idea appropriation happens when a woman's contribution is ignored until a male colleague repeats it
You've tried the other tabs
Thirty open tabs. Four facts you actually kept.
You watched. You nodded. By Sunday it was gone.
One answer, then back to scrolling.
Eight weeks. You meant to finish. You didn't.
Tomo gives Everyday Allyship for Women the Duolingo treatment: levels, streaks, and quick quizzes that test what you just learned. That game loop is what the tabs above never had, so it's the one you actually finish.
Here's what playing it feels like
A real question from this course. Take your best guess.
When a colleague gets cut off repeatedly in team discussions, what happens over time?
Get it right to open this lesson and 86 more in the app.
Where Everyday Allyship for Women takes you
Learn the concrete, actionable skills needed to actively support, sponsor, and advocate for women at work and in daily life. Move past good intentions to dismantle bias, share power, and create lasting equity.
- 1
The First Moves in Everyday Conversations
- The Meeting Interruption Playbook
- Amplifying and Crediting Ideas
- 2
Noticing the Invisible Dynamics
- Recognizing Micro-invalidations and Tone Policing
- Identifying Office Housework and Emotional Labor
- Spotting Double Standards in Evaluation
- 3
Speaking Up in the Moment
- Calibrating Direct Interventions
- Deflecting Defensive Pushback and Casual Banter
- Handling Closed-Door Comments When Women Are Absent
- 4
Decentering Yourself and Listening Well
- Practicing Active, Non-Defensive Listening
- Stepping Back from Saviorism to True Partnership
- Receiving Critical Feedback About Your Own Blind Spots
- 5
Equitable Sponsorship and Advocacy
- Moving from Mentorship to High-Stakes Sponsorship
- Redistributing Glamour Work and Promotion Pathways
- Advocating for Transparent and Fair Compensation
- 6
Intersectionality and Diverse Realities
- Navigating Intersectional Realities for Women of Color
- Supporting Working Mothers and Caregivers
- Inclusion Across LGBTQ+ Women and Neurodiverse Experiences
- 7
Changing Systems, Policies, and Culture
- Auditing Hiring, Slates, and Evaluation Criteria
- Building and Supporting Transparent Reporting Pathways
- Influencing Cultural Norms Beyond the Workplace
- 8
Sustaining Lifelong Allyship
- Avoiding Performative Allyship and Optical Support
- Building an Ally Accountability Network
8 sections · 22 units · 87 levels. Built to play, not to enroll.
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