Interpersonal Communication
Like Duolingo, but for Interpersonal Communication. Tomo turns the whole topic into a game you play five minutes a day, until it actually sticks.
For the part of you with thirty open tabs that never became anything.
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Key ideas in Interpersonal Communication
- Listening requires physiological effort and mental focus to process information
- Paraphrasing involves restating the speaker's message in your own words to verify meaning
- Passive hearing is involuntary, while active listening is a conscious choice to engage
- Effective paraphrasing captures the underlying emotion or intent, not just the literal facts
- The brain must actively filter out internal and external distractions to maintain the connection
- Mirroring exact words (parroting) often feels dismissive rather than empathetic
- Whether listening is a passive state or an active expenditure of energy
- The ability to distinguish between repeating words and paraphrasing intent
- Door openers are non-judgmental invitations to share more information
- Listening requires physiological effort and mental focus
- A door opener avoids giving advice or sharing a personal anecdote immediately
- Back-channeling cues confirm you are still 'with' the speaker
- Paraphrasing involves restating intent to verify meaning
- Identifying non-coercive prompts that keep the speaker talking
- Matching back-channeling cues to their function
- The rebuttal tendency stops you from actually hearing the speaker's perspective
You've tried the other tabs
Thirty open tabs. Four facts you actually kept.
You watched. You nodded. By Sunday it was gone.
One answer, then back to scrolling.
Eight weeks. You meant to finish. You didn't.
Tomo gives Interpersonal Communication the Duolingo treatment: levels, streaks, and quick quizzes that test what you just learned. That game loop is what the tabs above never had, so it's the one you actually finish.
Here's what playing it feels like
A real question from this course. Take your best guess.
When you want to ensure you've understood a friend correctly, which technique involves putting their ideas into your own language?
Get it right to open this lesson and 11 more in the app.
Where Interpersonal Communication takes you
Learn the invisible mechanics of how we connect, listen, and resolve friction in our daily relationships.
- 1
The Mechanics of Connection
- Active Listening as an Action
- The Silent Dialogue
- Navigating Friction and Conflict
- 2
The Hidden Filters
- Perception and the Self
2 sections · 4 units · 12 levels. Built to play, not to enroll.
You pick the voice
Interpersonal Communication is taught in the The Professor style: clear, structured, thorough. Want a different feel? In the app you can spin up the same topic in any of Tomo's teaching styles. Same facts, totally different vibe.
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